Excellent first essay for your substack. I look forward to reading more from you. As a male from a prior generation, I am glad that there are at least some people in a younger generation who are willing to reject the supposed empowerment that the sexual revolution promised to offer. I have watched this promise fail to materialize for decades in the lives of people close to me and in the demographic data I collect in my research. And yet here we are, mainstream journalism and culture continue to make the same claims about the infinite satisfaction that people who are so-called sex positive receive and that is denied those of us who are not as liberated as they. The truth is, those of us who have worked hard to focus our physical desires on one partner, preferably a long-term partner, are happier and more likely to achieve life satisfaction of nearly every measure. This is true for women and for men, although for men it is often harder for them to see the long-term happiness they will purchase at the cost of fewer short-term conquests. Yes, there are some individuals who deviate from this, and I do not need to censure or punish them for wanting to live differently. But the vast majority of human beings profit from a society that minimizes the pursuit of sexual variety in favor of long-term commitments that form stable families and put guardrails on the deviance of the few who truly want to harm others through sexual gratification.
i liked the book so much i bought copies for my daughters.
Paragraph 13 I think you meant convince not convict.
Excellent first essay for your substack. I look forward to reading more from you. As a male from a prior generation, I am glad that there are at least some people in a younger generation who are willing to reject the supposed empowerment that the sexual revolution promised to offer. I have watched this promise fail to materialize for decades in the lives of people close to me and in the demographic data I collect in my research. And yet here we are, mainstream journalism and culture continue to make the same claims about the infinite satisfaction that people who are so-called sex positive receive and that is denied those of us who are not as liberated as they. The truth is, those of us who have worked hard to focus our physical desires on one partner, preferably a long-term partner, are happier and more likely to achieve life satisfaction of nearly every measure. This is true for women and for men, although for men it is often harder for them to see the long-term happiness they will purchase at the cost of fewer short-term conquests. Yes, there are some individuals who deviate from this, and I do not need to censure or punish them for wanting to live differently. But the vast majority of human beings profit from a society that minimizes the pursuit of sexual variety in favor of long-term commitments that form stable families and put guardrails on the deviance of the few who truly want to harm others through sexual gratification.